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The Good Guy Is The New Bad Guy

Yes.. you heard me right. The good guy is, indeed, the new bad guy. Sounds like something you'd read in Cosmo magazine, no? And in cosmo, it'll probably end with tips about what to wear to attract this guys and top 5 moves he likes in bed. Sadly, this post is not as saucy.. it's just plain old boring text, even without illustrations or photos.
So, back to the title... what the hell is that anyway? I'll tell you: you know how girls always fall in their 20s for the "bad guy"; that being the guy with the mysterious attitude, maybe even mood swings, could be a womanizer, probably has serious commitment issues and will almost always end up treating girls like crap.
As we, the few remaining single girls, approach (or enter) our 30s, we realize that this repeated pattern is not working, so we internally convince ourselves that the typically "good guy" is better for us. We're sick and tired of being treated like shit just because we care for someone. So we opt for the good guy, who in theory is gentle, kind, and has high morals. Someone who you'd want to introduce to your parents. He wouldn't do us wrong, would he? He'll respect us and treat us kindly, because after all , he is good , no?
Now here comes the fun part, the good guys, in their late 30s/ early 40s, who have been good for so long, are actually sick and tired of being good. They have een admiring those bad guys for so long.. those that get all the girls crawling at their feet. They want some of that fun themselves. They have been ill-treated by bad girls for so long so they think its time for them to be bad for a while. But probably, because they're good, they dont really go ahead and become bad overnight. They turn bad , DURING a relationship, when you have already took the bait. They suddenly go "bad".
Problem is, when you do fall for a good guy, you really go without a single doubt in your mind that he can go THAT bad. I mean, he IS a good guy, so  you enter this relationship or whatever you want to call it, completely and utterly unprepared. You jump in cold water with both feet at once. So you hurt yourself twice (once for being stupid enough to fall for him, and once for not seeing the bad part coming) and he hurts you only once. 
So my advice to you girlies... stick with the bad guys.. at least we know what to expect!


-- Some time in May 2013

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