Around two weeks ago, I was set up with this guy, nice guy and all, maybe even meets most of my written criteria for a prospect but there was something missing and I couldn't really understand what it was.
I realized, part of it was maybe I'm just not ready to move to that yet but still something else was missing and I couldn't tell what it was. I started looking for answers in all the wrong directions and knocked on all doors. All the searching and not understanding .
Well, I found my answer last night. Although I'm advocating for finding "the" right person who meets "the" right criteria, I still want magic! I want butterflies in the stomach, I want music in my ears, I want the whole thing. And the weird thing is.. I've had it all before.. so I know it exists, and I can't settle for any less.
Love is passion, obsession, someone you can't live without. If you don't start with that, what are you going to end up with? Fall head over heels. I say find someone you can love like crazy and who'll love you the same way back. And how do you find him? Forget your head and listen to your heart. I'm not hearing any heart. Run the risk, if you get hurt, you'll come back. Because, the truth is there is no sense living your life without this. To make the journey and not fall deeply in love - well, you haven't lived a life at all. You have to try. Because if you haven't tried, you haven't lived.Stay open. Who knows? Lightning could strike
I read the above quote from Meet Joe Black and think; yeah.. that's it.. that's what I want. And if I cant find that.. then I don't want any. I mean, if I was to go on a second date with a person(or a first date in case I was introduced formally), then that person should be one of two things;
Really impressive or really impressed!
Really impressive, is someone, who after I meet the first time, I can't stop thinking about everything about him. I had that with A (regardless of the fact that he turned out to be not so impressive). Really impressed, is someone who really likes me and is hard working enough to try to get to me. I had that with Y i think (regardless of the fact that it didn't last).
So my point is.. I still need the magic and the magic becomes clear at first sight. Maybe I'm too greedy, but I think it's fair. Maybe I'm a dreamer, but it has happened before. Maybe I'm too demanding, but why should I settle for less?
On an end note ,I think: It can't be too wrong to want the Magic!!
I realized, part of it was maybe I'm just not ready to move to that yet but still something else was missing and I couldn't tell what it was. I started looking for answers in all the wrong directions and knocked on all doors. All the searching and not understanding .
Well, I found my answer last night. Although I'm advocating for finding "the" right person who meets "the" right criteria, I still want magic! I want butterflies in the stomach, I want music in my ears, I want the whole thing. And the weird thing is.. I've had it all before.. so I know it exists, and I can't settle for any less.
Love is passion, obsession, someone you can't live without. If you don't start with that, what are you going to end up with? Fall head over heels. I say find someone you can love like crazy and who'll love you the same way back. And how do you find him? Forget your head and listen to your heart. I'm not hearing any heart. Run the risk, if you get hurt, you'll come back. Because, the truth is there is no sense living your life without this. To make the journey and not fall deeply in love - well, you haven't lived a life at all. You have to try. Because if you haven't tried, you haven't lived.Stay open. Who knows? Lightning could strike
I read the above quote from Meet Joe Black and think; yeah.. that's it.. that's what I want. And if I cant find that.. then I don't want any. I mean, if I was to go on a second date with a person(or a first date in case I was introduced formally), then that person should be one of two things;
Really impressive or really impressed!
Really impressive, is someone, who after I meet the first time, I can't stop thinking about everything about him. I had that with A (regardless of the fact that he turned out to be not so impressive). Really impressed, is someone who really likes me and is hard working enough to try to get to me. I had that with Y i think (regardless of the fact that it didn't last).
So my point is.. I still need the magic and the magic becomes clear at first sight. Maybe I'm too greedy, but I think it's fair. Maybe I'm a dreamer, but it has happened before. Maybe I'm too demanding, but why should I settle for less?
On an end note ,I think: It can't be too wrong to want the Magic!!
Comments
However, I disagree with your assertion that the magic becomes clear at first sight.
I've had it twice, and in both times it took more than a few "sights" to show itself.
One time it even started with a very weird "OMG, what have I gotten myself into" kinda thing.
Give it time, one or two hours with a person is very rarely enough to know anything significant about a person. Unless said person really stinks or something :)
If we wait a few "sights", then one would want the "impressed" kind of thing..which is again.. an option!