There's this annoying little something that always pisses me off, but I never talk about, cause it makes me feel mean and evil (which I sort of am but don't like to admit it). But then, Ji called and she had the very same problem (including the guilt of feeling mean and evil) and I decided, well.. this is worth blogging.
You know how some "friends" only call you when they are depressed; as in, when something good happens in their life, you're the last to know, but you're always the first person that comes to their mind when they want to cry their heart out. Naturally, it's a good thing that friend know I'm there for them, and that I will always be there to lift them up when they fall. And I'm happy to know that they trust my opinions but let's just think:
- So you are depressed, your life sucks, everything is falling out of place,.. I'm hear to listen, until! Until you bring up the fact that you talk to me cause I've had a shitty life so you assume I'll understand. You know what.. I love my life.. it's not shitty at all. Yes I have been through some ups and down but I really look back and think that I'm overall happy. If you're sad and need a shoulder to cry on, there is absolutely no point in comparing to my life. Really!
- "You're the first person I call". Yes I know, you always call your other friends to share good news, an outing or just to chat, but me.. I'm the one that comes to mind when you feel down. See, I'm ready to bear with that if you call me for the happy things as well, some people do that, yes walahi.. we call them "real friends"; they call to say , "Hey, you're the first person I call; guess what..I'm pregnant" or "Yasmine, I'm in a good mood, do you want to go for coffee?". They do exist, I have some of those great people.
-What's even worse is that, you will say the same old things you said a million times. Life is miserable, boring and there is absolutely no reason to live. Ever since you (broke up with your boyfriend/ got fired/ found out she's getting married/lost all your money ...etc), you can't seem to find a reason to get out of bed. Even your friends don't want to talk to you anymore (and don't they have the right with all your continuous wining). Guess what! You will continue to feel this way until YOU do something about it. Stop playing the victim, we make our own luck. Repeating the same complaints over and over again will NOT give you more sympathy from my side or anyone's. The details of how pathetic your life is make me reluctant to answer you call. Call me when a change of pace happens, or when you finally take one of my many suggestions (or your friends/family/loved ones suggestions) to do something instead of waiting for things to happen miraculously.
-What waaaaaaaaaay worse, is when you are using the above method as a pick up method. Really, are you expecting me to fall in love with you just because you have a miserable life? Seriously, how can you start flirting by mentioning how boring your life is? I mean who , in her right mind, would leave all the interesting people in the world, who have exciting lives, and want to be there to rub the tears off your cheek all the time? Really, find a new pick up line.
-And finally, did you bother stop to think how my day is going? I might be miserable myself and just not in the mood to talk. Or I might be busy, but then that doesn't make a difference , cause you'll call a million times until I actually pick up, right? Or maybe, just maybe, I'm having a good day. Maybe my day is so good that I don't want anything screwing it up.
You know how some "friends" only call you when they are depressed; as in, when something good happens in their life, you're the last to know, but you're always the first person that comes to their mind when they want to cry their heart out. Naturally, it's a good thing that friend know I'm there for them, and that I will always be there to lift them up when they fall. And I'm happy to know that they trust my opinions but let's just think:
- So you are depressed, your life sucks, everything is falling out of place,.. I'm hear to listen, until! Until you bring up the fact that you talk to me cause I've had a shitty life so you assume I'll understand. You know what.. I love my life.. it's not shitty at all. Yes I have been through some ups and down but I really look back and think that I'm overall happy. If you're sad and need a shoulder to cry on, there is absolutely no point in comparing to my life. Really!
- "You're the first person I call". Yes I know, you always call your other friends to share good news, an outing or just to chat, but me.. I'm the one that comes to mind when you feel down. See, I'm ready to bear with that if you call me for the happy things as well, some people do that, yes walahi.. we call them "real friends"; they call to say , "Hey, you're the first person I call; guess what..I'm pregnant" or "Yasmine, I'm in a good mood, do you want to go for coffee?". They do exist, I have some of those great people.
-What's even worse is that, you will say the same old things you said a million times. Life is miserable, boring and there is absolutely no reason to live. Ever since you (broke up with your boyfriend/ got fired/ found out she's getting married/lost all your money ...etc), you can't seem to find a reason to get out of bed. Even your friends don't want to talk to you anymore (and don't they have the right with all your continuous wining). Guess what! You will continue to feel this way until YOU do something about it. Stop playing the victim, we make our own luck. Repeating the same complaints over and over again will NOT give you more sympathy from my side or anyone's. The details of how pathetic your life is make me reluctant to answer you call. Call me when a change of pace happens, or when you finally take one of my many suggestions (or your friends/family/loved ones suggestions) to do something instead of waiting for things to happen miraculously.
-What waaaaaaaaaay worse, is when you are using the above method as a pick up method. Really, are you expecting me to fall in love with you just because you have a miserable life? Seriously, how can you start flirting by mentioning how boring your life is? I mean who , in her right mind, would leave all the interesting people in the world, who have exciting lives, and want to be there to rub the tears off your cheek all the time? Really, find a new pick up line.
-And finally, did you bother stop to think how my day is going? I might be miserable myself and just not in the mood to talk. Or I might be busy, but then that doesn't make a difference , cause you'll call a million times until I actually pick up, right? Or maybe, just maybe, I'm having a good day. Maybe my day is so good that I don't want anything screwing it up.
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