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Of Tinder - and All the Lengths People Go Through to Find Love

On Fustany.com, Amira-the-brave, went through the effort of trying out "Tinder" for the rest of us. She registered a profile, checked out some people (and weirdo creatures), and even started talking with a guy or two. Nothing solid yet, it's just a experimental phase.

That was a spark. See, I was already curious about it to the extent that I actually wanted to start a dating website at some point. Oh.. did I just say that out loud, well, that's probably my next startup. Anyway, I just never proceeded, not out of shyness, but sheer laziness.

So today I did two things; I wrote a question on Facebook trying to understand the reactions and impressions people have of meeting someone online/through an app, and I created my Tinder profile.

Tinder profile was confusing; which photos to use? what profile to write? I wanted pretty pics, not too crazy, but shows my "fun" side. I wanted a bio that tells a little about who I was without scaring people off because I'm a CEO of a random startup. I picked some old pics (which I feel bad for using as I feel a bit deceptive since I put on some weight since then) and used a modified bit of my Twitter bio which doesnt make me look too boring but practically says nothing about me.

That said, another struggle was discovering the app itself and how it works. But hey, I did it, I even got a match. His name is Ahmed, he's 35, wears glasses similar to mine and has a beard. That's all we know. Oh, and being a match means that he thought I was pretty, too. No idea what happens from there, should I message him? what for him to message me? I was never good at these games. I didnt even make my mind up if I'll do anything about it. We'll see.

Back to Facebook, so between family and friends, I got tons of responses that range from "You're crazy, don't do it" to "You go girl, go for it!" and everything in between. I replied and replied and replied but let me still put this out there, as a way of setting reader's expectations.

I know that people online are mostly weirdos looking for one night stands. And if anything compared to real life,  men in the age I'm looking at are married but looking for a part time entertainment. Realistic me knows its a waste of time and an unnecessary distraction while I should be working on my MBA essay and my series-A deck. But then there is the optimistic me who still believes in Santa Clause, fairies, mermaids and that the Care Bears still live in the clouds. A part of me still believes in true love and that a knight in a shining armour who isn't threatened by the fact that I run a company will one day show up and take me far away from here, where I don't have to be strong anymore because love conquers all and all that shit.

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Anonymous said…
خلي بالك على نفسك ده أولا
أما بعد كده العقل كتير بيفكر في أشياء جديدة علشان التغيير بس مش كل الجديد بيكون مفيد على فكرة أنتي ممكن تكوني واقفة عند نقطة مميزة بس مش واخده بالك ممكن تكوني مشغولة كتير باللي ناقصك
على فكرة أنتي مش محتاجة حب بس أنتي محتاجة أكتر أنتي محتاجة حب وموده وحنان وأسرة وأولاد وده مش هاتلاقيه على الإنترنت ده هايجي في ميعاده أنا قرأت أنك 33 سنة على فكرة لسه في أمل في أن ربنا يكرمك بكل ما تتمني ربنا بيقول إنما أمره إذا أراد شيئا أن
يقول له كن فيكون
ممكن تهدي نفسك من جوه شويه
حاولي توصلي للسلام الداخلي
العباده والتأمل بيساعد كتير والأمل من أهم عناصر الإستقرار .. مادام في نفس في القفص يبقى في أمل
ولا تغفلي عن عباده حسن الظن بالله
أبشري واستبشري وبلاش طرقعة يا
يا جميلة zeww
نسمه فاضل

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