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Reflections on tolerance , intelligence and beauty

Tolerance
I find it really interesting how many people who claim themselves open-minded , sophisticated , cultured and well-read would use the word "tolerance" to justify socially unacceptable behavior or ideologies. They would claim themselves tolerant to different religious/spiritual views, to taboo topics, eccentric friends ,...etc and even preach the more reserved about tolerating and accepting others. Yet, these very "tolerant" people would not even remotely accept a conservative or religious person. A girl I know , to prove her so-called tolerance would always preach "Guys, you should always be more tolerant. Take things easier. The world is very diverse and we should learn to accept each other. For one, I learned to cope with things; I even lived with a gay flat-mate when I lived in the US and I have friends of all faiths." This same girl, when talking to me about my own brother would still say "I can't stand how those so called religious guys ,even though before they started practicing religion where so smart, immediately turn stupid upon practicing religion and insist on things like growing their beard or wearing the hijab". So she, for one, is tolerant to everything except her own culture. When will people like her learn that choice to practice any religion is a choice as much as it is a choice not to practice ?! And that deciding to follow what is culturally accepted is a choice as it is not to follow?! And I wonder, will there ever be a point in time will tolerant people learn to tolerate the intolerant!?

Super smart vs super hot
There was a public question on the radio "Would you rather be super hot or super smart?". Until a few days ago, I would have answered without hesitation, "super smart", because if you're smart enough, you'll either manage to look hot enough(for your own self esteem), or you wont care less how you (nor other people) look. However, in the past few days I've witnessed how many respectable ,intelligent ,sophisticated men are affected with beautiful women. No offense intended to anyone, but seriously, a hot chick is bound to have almost any man round her finger, even without her planning to. Even though I find it entertaining, it saddens me deep inside. I would have loved to think that intelligent men would choose brains over beauty but it seems that this was just a fairytale that I need to let go of. Having said that, I think I also need to face myself with the truth that: I do care what other people think and that I would love to feel attractive (at least every once in a while). And yes given a choice I'd rather be super hot in my next life, I mean, what have I accomplished with brains!

Now reflecting on that last sentence I just wrote, I think it would be really ironic (in a scary way) for someone to look at me in sarcasm and say ,"So you've been going through your life, ya 7aram, all that time thinking yourself as one with brains !"

Comments

Nag said…
yes!! and this "someone" was thinking of teasing u with this comment until you said it first!

same thoughts on my mind btw..
Unknown said…
By the way Nag, step aside :P
How dare you consider yourself a brains person?
Nag said…
again ya Omar, dont complete incomplete thoughts.. it was a "c", you made it an "o" (hint: think about the shapes of the letters not their meaning ;)) ((hint for the hint: if you dont understand, ask yasmine maybe she'd understand!))

I might be from Masr El Gedida bass i know my c's and o's :P
Unknown said…
You're not from Masr El-Gedida aslan :P
The place where you live lost its name aslan :P
Nag said…
you mean masaken fairmont towers el matar? LOL

bet3ayerni? :(

do you think yasmine is enjoying our chat on her blogspace?
BooDy said…
Omar, Nag, I hate you people
Nag said…
boody-

you and Zao are just jealous because you're not as cool as omar and i are..
Unknown said…
Zew, sorry: I was about to post a reply to your deep thoughts since they really mean a lot but I was caught by one of Nag's nice and meaningful ideas and replies. Sorry.

Anyways, I wanted to say that I personally see the brains/beauty dilemma in a simple way: a hot girl/woman can attract even most brained men, yet she can never do that for long. I personally hate this.
I hope I will always use my mind when I meet anyone or start a relationship with anyone. I still value brains over beauty.

PS: I personally think you have both things in good balance.
/me runs away
Zeww said…
Nag, Omar, and BooDy
I used to love you...
Kont ba7ebokom!

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